As kids growing up we are thought to not talk to stranger. Yes keep teaching that, but what about teaching about sexual assault, from what it is, people to talk to in the event that it happens, even way to help prevent it. Sexual assault is an involuntary act in which a person is sexual threatened or forced to engage in sexual act against their will. Sexual assault is not just intercourse. Rape is force whether it is vaginal, anal, oral penetration even if it is just a forced kiss. Some say a sexual assault is an unwanted sexual contact that stops short of rape or attempted rape, but does it really stop at attempt? It starts sometimes with that kiss, that touch, that child who didn’t tell an adult, or even said stop, don’t. these act of assault are what makes children, adulterants and even adults become victims, victimizers or the offer may often times be acquaintance from a family member to just a friend.
Wednesday May 13, 1998, Stacey got home to from school she was only 12 at the time. She was staying with her cousin Pat and four kids. When Stacey go home the son alone was home is name was mark, she was in the back room where is would stay watching TV, with him, when e forced himself on her. Mark threatened not to tell anyone. Pat got home at 8o’clock that night and Stacey told her what happened.pat told Stacey that she is a liar and she was telling a lie on her son. The following Saturday, when Stacey woke up, there was no one in the house expect mark and herself. She tired her best not to leave the room, but she had to. Stacey want to the bathroom then to the kitchen to get something to eat, when mark want in the kitchen and fit her in the face and said “didn’t I tell you not to say a word to anyone” with another slap to the face. Mark then raped her again, right there on the kitchen floor. When he was done she showered and walked to the town to see her mother, Stacey’s mother worked in the town on weekends. When Stacey got there and told her mother what happen, her mother told her that Pat told her that I was telling lies on mark. Stacey told her mother that it wasn’t a lie and that it had happened again today. The Sunday morning Stacey told her dad and he believed her and wants to find out what happen from Mark. Pat told Stacey dad that mark wasn’t there when he asked to speak with him, and that Stacey was telling a lie. Stacey and her dad when to the police station where they reported it to the police and it was confirmed by the doctor at hospital that Stacey was rapped. Mark mother sent him out the country so he was never charged.
I am asking that when a child yours or not report and assault whether they are sexual psychological or even verbally take a close look at it. They are not too young to recognize their victimization. Get to know your child that if and when the child start acting different you’ll know, even when it’s someone around you know and believe them. Every victim of assault at some point or another find themselves in the of mood denial, helplessness, anger, self-blame, anxiety, shame, have nightmare, fear, depression, flashbacks, quilt, mood-swings, numbness, promiscuity , loneliness, difficulty trusting themselves and others, difficulty concentrating desire of revenge,, desire to fix the problem and move on disliking sex or the sexes (man, woman) and rationalization. In tiring to rationalize some may think it wasn’t so bad while other don’t want to ever feel it again in their life time. This may even cause some to question the sexuality.
Sexual assault is everybody business!